Sometimes we miss out on enjoying simple pleasures because we are saving them for later. We don’t honor or respect ourselves enough to allow us to enjoy the good stuff on an everyday basis.
With some practice, this can become a way a life. We save every exciting, new experience for another more convenient day. Often I catch myself passing up an opportunity to participate in something enjoyable because my husband or my kids aren’t with me.
Sometimes I drive by an incredible new place but don’t go in because I think to myself, “I will wait until the kids are in town and we will all get together and try that place out”. I go through my closet, passing up what I really want to wear – not because it is inappropriate for my planned activity - but because it is too just nice to wear and use up. Frugal can become a disease if you let it.
Last March I purchased some gloriously colorful coffee cups (pictured above) at World Market in Buckhead next to Binders Art Supply Store. This set of coffee cups seemed perfect for an artist since each one is a different color.
“How Inspiring!” , I thought.
They also stack so neatly in their vertical holding rack so that these cups take up very little counter space, yet stay out of the cupboard, displaying their bold, beautiful colors.
After returning home, I began to doubt my worthiness to use these simple coffee cups. What if I break one? Then the set will be ruined. I will never be able to find another single cup that fits into the rack with the others, and if I did, the color wouldn’t match.
“These will be really neat to have when company comes over.” I continued to scheme. “ I can set them next to the coffee pot, each guest will be so delighted to have their own uniquly colored cup!”
Today I woke up and thought, What the heck is wrong with me?
I spent a silly$20 bucks on these cups. I love these cups. Yet I have not drank the first sip of coffee from them. What am I waiting on?
My Dad came to visit, he used the cups, but I asked him to be really careful and not break them since they were part of a set. He just looked at me, and didn’t anything….out loud that is…. Then he continued to drink his coffee. He used the green one. I noticed. The next day, he drank from a different color. At age 80, he isn’t saving anything for another day.
I am not saving things anymore! I am using them! I am going to live a little!
And to further brag on myself, I am going to get up from here and go to my closet and put on my “good” brown pants. You know, the ones I am “saving” for when we go out of town. Like the people out of town will somehow be impressed by these “good” brown pants. HA!
Thanks for listening to my craziness today.
Studio Notes: I am working on some large non-representational abstracts for next year. I rarely paint this way. Typically you can identify something, someone, or somewhere in my paintings.
I have wanted to do this for a long time, but was holding back. Non-representational Abstracts have a reputation of being more difficult to sell. Poop on that!
I am painting them anyway. I can’t hold them back any longer. They must run their course.
I think abstract can be about attitude and mood more so than other compostions. I am hoping my new coffee cup attitude will help with these paintings. So far the paintings have been quite a struggle for me.
When I working on them, I don’t feel good the way I normally do when painting.
I will learn to embrace this feeling. I am painting through it. I am painting this discontent, this uneasiness, all while drinking from my colorful coffee cups!!












Cindy….What a GREAT post! I was brought up in an era where we had to work hard for anything we had…and we were always ‘waiting for the right occasion’ to wear our best clothes, use our nice dishes…etc. I can’t tell you HOW many outfits my children wore only ONCE (if that) before they were either handed down to a sibling, or given away! I began to combat this by NOT purchasing anything that I was going to ‘save back for special occasions’. If I can’t use it everyday..I guess I don’t need it…it turns out…I don’t participate in that many ‘special occasions’ to make it worth the purchase:)
Really enjoyed reading this post and LOVE your art!!
Thanks Charlene. Let’s both plan to use all this “good stuff” from now on ! — cindy
That is an insightful post and I agree heartily. I grew up with the “really good” living room furniture that no one was ever allowed to sit on. It was reserved for guests. Both my Dad and Mom passed on early in their lives and the “good furniture” was sold at a yard sale. It was still in new condition because no one ever enjoyed sitting on it. So enjoy the good stuff now…tomorrow may be too late.
Hi Ruth,
Thanks for reading my article. I too suffer from writer’s block. I try to jot down ideas when I can, but sometimes I can never come up with anything. I too share your dilemma.
Cindy
Cindy,
Wonderful how our fathers got that message across to us. To see how MY dad put it, follow this link to his note card from his series “Love Sacred, Love Profane” on a cafe press
http://www.cafepress.com/theltc.322676943
Meg
Oh! I felt the same way about the cups… they are just so lovely in their colors and …just plain ‘o well.. NEAT! Also, enjoyed reading your story. I had a somewhat similar life change but not with a job (even though I never could do the cubicle thing makes my stomach turn), but due to the loss of my young husband. After a period of mourning, knew I had to make a change for me, and did. Sold our house, moved to another state, and enrolled myself into art school! Later, decided I wanted to try selling my paintings online and so far (even though not easy) I feel more true to myself than ever! Your artistic and personal growth, and artwork is inspiring!
Best Wishes to you,
Allison Reece
NC